The act of dating and getting to know someone can be awkward. National studies show that many young adults say the awkward process of dating feels like going on a job interview. What to wear? What to say? Where to go?
People today dislike discomfort, and data shows that they avoid it. The result? A growing trend of singleness and delayed marriage.
For those who would like to find love again— widowed, single, or dating— then this quote is for you: “If you do what most people do, you’ll get what most people get. If you want something different, you have to take a different approach.”
In the story of Ruth, Boaz showed generosity and kindness to Ruth, a poor widow caring for her widowed motherin- law, Naomi. He provided for her, protected her, and planted seeds of faith that could grow into a God-honoring relationship. But then… nothing. The relationship stalled.
In Ruth chapter 3, Naomi decides it’s time for Ruth to DTR —Define The Relationship. After weeks of working in Boaz’s fields with no romantic follow-up (as a modern teen might say, “He ghosted her”), Naomi hatches a plan. Scripture says, “My daughter, it’s time that I found a permanent home for you, so that you will be provided for.” (Ruth 3:1). Translation: Ruth, wash up, put on some perfume, and let’s move this along.
Naomi’s advice gets… creative. “Be sure to notice where he lies down; then go and uncover his feet and lie down there.”
(Ruth 3:4). Nothing says “godly courtship” quite like surprising a man at midnight by his toes. Ruth asks Boaz to “spread the corner of your covering over me, for you are my family redeemer.” (Ruth 3:9).
Boaz responds not with panic, but with honor. “The Lord bless you, my daughter!… I will do what is necessary.” (Ruth 3:10-11). He doesn’t exploit the moment. He protects her reputation and models integrity. If you want something different, take a different approach.
Godly relationships thrive not on hints alone, but on courage and commitment. It’s wise to put yourself in the right places to meet the right people—and sometimes to take a humble step forward.
But this story points beyond romance. “Love covers a multitude of sins.” (1 Peter 4:8). Jesus is our ultimate Redeemer. He sees our awkwardness, mistakes, and half-hearted commitments. He wasn’t obligated to save us—but He chose the cross. His redeeming love covers our sin completely.
So maybe it’s time to DTR with Jesus. Is He an occasional acquaintance— or your Lord, Savior, and King? If your heart truly desires a Redeemer, God’s love will cover you. No awkward dating required.
Want to explore that kind of redeeming love? Join us at Lake Eufaula Christian Church, 415897 Highway 9, Eufaula. Small group Bible study meets at 10 a.m., worship at 11 a.m. and 6:30 p.m., with Wednesday night activities for all ages. Come as you are— and define your relationship with the Divine.
God Bless You!
Jeremy Little, Minister
